Words and Wisdom

Hi my baby son! You have just turned 17 months old,  and going on 17 years old. Wow, I never thought I would say this, well this soon anyway, but you are so much like me. You hate being told what to do, but you look for my "gentle" guidance. You fight, fuss, and down right get mean when I am trying to make you do something you don't want to do, but if I give you a little space and talk about it, you tend to give in like it was your idea. Sorry kiddo you are just like your Mom.

And you are talking up a storm. I love it! Your little brain is expanding every day. Right now everything is "No". Even when you mean Yes. Do you want a cookie: No. Do you want to go outside and play: No. Do you want a kiss: No. And it is funny how you say it. You say No, like you are asking me a question. When you really mean "no", you say it with force. I think it is funny, but I am trying hard not to laugh.

So those bull headed moments I mentioned above... have driven me to the books. I have yet to read a book on how to raise you. I figured I could just wing it. KIDDING! I just felt like, Until now, you and I have figured things out. Now, I need advice. These parents today think, that they will just know what to do with their children. But I have learned there is no harm in asking someone who has been through it. And by "it", I mean the Toddler years. There is a reason they say, It takes a village to raise a kid. The hard part about asking for advice is that everyone is full of it and they think their way is the only way because it worked for their kid. Well, I think, you take it file it away, if you need it then bring it out and see if it works. If not, move on. You are not like any other kid on this planet and I am not like any other mother. So together we will figure out what works for us. And certainly you will do this when you have kiddos. What advice I give you then, may or may not work. But keep it tucked away and discard when needed. Don't take all advice seriously, but I know that you like gentle guidance (well at least so far you do), so just love your kids to death and you will figure out your relationship and pattern AND keep your santity along the way.

I love you more than words (or advice)!

Mommy